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How to Tell You're Really in Love
Signs of Immature Love
- You are tired most of the time
- Love seems more like a burden than a joy
- Violence is part of the relationship
- You have thoughts like Maybe Things Will Get Better
- Your partner frequently makes promises that aren't kept
- You ask frequently:
- Are You Sure You Love Me?
- Do You Really Care about Me?
- You feel Miserable
Signs of Mature Love
- You have a lot of energy
- You have a sense of humor
- You really appreciate each other's ideas
- When you are together, you spend most of your time enjoyably and creatively
- You can talk about each other's likes and dislikes
- You are a person, not a sex object
- You can spend a day alone with your partner -- without television -- and find it fantastic
- Each sensing the other's commitment never to misuse or abuse what is known about me to hurt me
The Ten Most Important Parts of Marriage
- Love, sensitivity, and respect for each other
The solid foundation upon which an enduring relationship is based
- A sense of humor and playfulness
- Honest communication without violating private thoughts and experiences
- Doing meaningful things together
- Sharing time with people who are really enjoyed, both together and singly
- Not compromising --
o Who you are or want to be
o What you want to have:
Career
Children
Faithfulness to each other
- Tolerance for weak spots -- like being tired, clumsy, irritable at times -- and for opposite points of view
- Acceptance of each other's likes, dislikes, levels of energy, and fantasies
- Sexual pleasure and delight
- Sharing household tasks
Intimacy
- Each feeling safe enough to describe fantasies
- Tolerating each other's fantasies
- Respecting each other's fantasies though not necessarily sharing them
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